Again, the more closure you give her, the less time this will probably take.
She hates it, which is ironic because she is uber-confrontational and thinks it is wonderful to just say what is on her mind regardless of who it may affect.
David Lebrocq says Hey B.
Its like she manipulating me without consciously trying.
and i get told im abusive and i have to choose my family or her, and stuff that happens years ago or months ago never gets forgotten.
She will probably cite abuse as a reason you should not have custody.